Those Three Little Words

Love... the thing that everyone is trying to find. Everyone, no matter what age, tries to make sure that some one loves them. They can be 7 years old trying to get their parents, other siblings or friends to love them or they can be 20 years old in a relationship with their high school sweet heart, either way people are trying to feel that love so they are not empty. Love is a powerful thing and sometimes that is a bad thing because it can make people do some crazy things. 

Now, I am going to talk about the love between people who are 16 and older because i feel that those people are smart enough to know if they seriously love someone so much that they cant live without them. We all hear when we walk up and down the halls at school and on facebook that so and so loves each other. I know I always see it but the thing that gets me is that people say those three little words as if it is nothing. People say it even before they have been going out for at least a month or two. I don't  you can love this person after dating them after two weeks! But that isn't always true. It just depends on the couple. I just feel that people really dont know the real meaning of love and they use it just to say it. That is why I said people who are younger than 16 do not know what love really means. 

When you love someone and you have been in a relationship with them for a while this person really becomes your "rock". You can't do anything without them and you just want to be with them all the time. This person is someone who you can always rely on when you go down bumpy roads. When you are with this person you don't care what negative things people say to you. Just like the song "Ours" by Taylor Swift says, "People throw rocks at things that shine and life makes love look hard", but people get through that becsause they have that someone to love them.

That is all I have right now about love. I know I will be coming back to write more but before I finish I have some last minute advice. If you are dating someone and this just started and you feel like you want to say those three words stop and think and make sure. Sometimes if both of you are NOT ready it can make the guy scared that you are getting too serious too quickly. You BOTH have to be ready:-) <3 <3 <3 <3

The Eyes of The Invisible <3

"give me more lovin then i've ever had.
make it all better when i'm feelin sad.
tell me that i'm special even when i know i'm not.
make me feel good when i hurt so bad.
barely gettin mad,
im so glad i found you.
i love bein around you.
you make it easy,
as easy as 1 2,(1 2 3 4.)
theres only one thing two do three words four you.
i love you.
(i love you)
theres only one way two say those three words
and that's what i'll do.
i love you."

"1, 2, 3, 4" by Plain White T's 

Sorry if this was just a little of my overall topic. I just wanted this to be my last blog post. :-)

Patience... Everyone needs it

Patience is one of the most important things that people need no matter what or who they are. Many people in this world have such a low tolerance for stuff now a days it is really sad. People are oblivious sometimes and dont see that they are being very impatient. Being in a rush or getting mad at people for being a little slow wont gt you anywhere. Also, waiting can be a good thing. Most of the time good things come a little slower. You just have to wait and be PATIENT!

I know that a lot of people get very aggrivated when people dont do what they want when they want it. Those people need to take a step back and see how they are treating that person since they are being to impatient. When you lose your patience with something or someone so quickly you become a person who is very rude and no one wants to be around you. Also, if you are very pushy and want things done quickly by people those people might actualy get hurt by that. I know that I hate when people are impatient and are always in a rush, but i know i can be that way sometimes when i dont pay attention to what i am doing.

In the end my overall advice is to just slow down your pace. Life isnt going any where and what every you need done or want done it can be done with you being patient.

The Eyes of The Invisible

Shed a tear 'cause I'm missing you
I'm still alright to smile
Girl, I think about you every day now
Was a time when I wasn't sure
But you set my mind at ease
There is no doubt you're in my heart now
Said woman take it slow
It'll work itself out fine
All we need is just a little patience
Said sugar make it slow
And we'll come together fine
All we need is just a little patience
(inhale) Patience...
Ooh, oh, yeah

Sit here on the stairs
'Cause I'd rather be alone
If I can't have you right now, I'll wait dear
Sometimes, I get so tense
But I can't speed up the time
But you know, love, there's one more thing to consider
Said woman take it slow
Things will be just fine
You and I'll just use a little patience

"Patience" by Guns N' Roses

The Green Eyed Monster

No matter what goes on in your life, jealousy will never get you any where. Whether a girl just took your boyfriend and you want revenge or your parents favor you little brother over you and you are trying to get attention, jealousy will just end up getting you in trouble in the end.  Jealousy is a really bad habit to have. It is really easy to become jealous of somebody because they have better stuff than what you have or they took what you had. Either way, jealousy makes people crazy which in the end makes them do crazy stuff. 

What I am trying to get across in this weeks post is that if you are jealous of someone stop yourself right then and there. If you realize it you can stop it. Think about everything YOU have and that person doesn't. Being you is the best thing you could ever be. Being someone else might look goo at the moment but in the long run being you is amazing. Just think that person might have what ever your jealous about but think about what you have and they don't. By doing this it will help you in the long run. One it will make you believe in and love yourself more. Two it will keep you out of trouble because everyone knows when you are jealous you are more likely to do some crazy things.

The Eyes of The Invisible

"Now go stand in the corner

And think about what you did"

Time for revenge

The story starts when it was hot

And it was summer and I had it all

I had him right where I wanted him

She came along, got him alone

And let's hear the applause

She took him faster than you could say "sabotage"

I never saw it coming

Wouldn't have suspected it

I underestimated just who I was dealing with

She had to know the pain

Was beating in me like a drum

She underestimated just who she was stealing from

"Better Than Revenge" by Taylor Swift

Friends Come And Go But Family Is Forever

Family is one of the most important things anyone can have in their life. They are there through think and think. No matter what happens to you or what challenges you face, they will be by your side forever. You might go through some rough patches in your life and that is normal. But at times those patches can really hurt you and put a lot of stress on you. That is where your family is there. They are there for you to talk to. They won't judge you unlike some of the friends you might have. You can always know that you will be alright because you will have your family behind you to catch you when you fall down.

If you don't have a immediate family a lot of people consider their friends as family. I myself have a best friend that I consider her my sister. Her name is Elizabeth and she and I have gone through so much together that I know that she will always be there for me. I love her so much and I do feel as if she is part of my family. Sometimes we all need at least one person, whether they are blood related or they have been a friend for a very long time, that we can trust to have our back no matter what. For those who are having a tough time and feel as if no one cares or nothing is worth it anymore they need to really look again. Just talk to someone that you trust and you will soon find out that there are people out there that care about you. You might feel like no one likes you or no one cares about you but like I said, think again. You might be one person to the world, but you might mean the world to one person.

The Eyes of The Invisible

I am Rosemary's granddaughter
The spitting image of my father
And when the day is done
My momma's still my biggest fan
Sometimes I'm clueless and I'm clumsy
But I've got friends who love me
And they know just where I stand
It's all a part of me
And that's who I am

"Who I Am" by Jessica Andrews

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

“Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire”. . . We have all heard it before and probably all have said it too. Now if only that was true. Everyone has known someone who has lied or they themselves had lied, either on purpose or they just can’t help but lie. Lying, I feel, is very contagious and it seems like everyone just can’t help themselves and they have to lie.

Lying can really get you into trouble and it could really hurt someone’s feelings.  You might be lying to help save someone from the truth because it is really bad, but in the end it might be better to actually tell them the truth in the first place. If you don tell them the truth in the beginning you are just making it worst for yourself in the end because the truth might not be as bad as you lying in the first place!

Also, spreading lies about people is never a good idea either. That person will eventually find out and it will come back and bite you in the butt. Another reason for not doing that is because that person who you are spreading these lies about might take it to heart and start to believe them. That is when people start to get hurt. Lying is just another form of bullying. So if you don’t want to be the one who is bullying someone then you shouldn’t be lying either.

The Eyes of The Invisible 

"Hey white liar
the truth comes out a little at a time
and it spreads just like a fire
slips off of your tongue like turpentine
and i don´t know why
white liar

you better be careful what you do
i wouldn´t wanna be in your shoes
if they ever found you out
you better be careful what you say
it never really added up any way
I got friends in this town"

"White Liar" By Miranda Lambert

A Helping Hand is a Caring Hand

We all need to stop and look around and really think about what is going on around us. Those of us who do that might be able to see that we aren’t the only ones in the world and that there are actually people who are struggling and having a rough life. Many people are just going on through life confused and ignoring all the chaos. We never really care and we just keep missing it all. The broken hearted, the forgotten, the bullied, the abused, the so called normal people, they all have something that is wrong or bothering them, but no one pays any attention. Those people put smiles on so nobody can tell. They try to go on as if they don’t need anyone to help or care but those are the people who need to most help. If they were to be cared about and not just passed over the world might be a lot better place. Those who get bullied are more likely to commit suicide because they can’t take the constant abuse. Those who were abused are more likely to commit the same crimes. If we would care to help these people we might not lose them to something bad.

            All of us have done it before, we have lied to just get on pass and we never thought we were wrong. But if we take a minute to really see what is happening and what is actually bothering people we might be able to see who people really are and help them if they want it or need it. Even though these people might be far beyond your reach you can always try. Helping somebody never hurt anyone. In the end it could help them and it could help you become a better person than you ever were before.

So from now on don’t just ignore those who are looking like they might be having a bad day. If you go to school with them or you work with them just check and make sure everything is okay. By you doing that you might have just saved a life if they had thoughts that nobody cared about them. You never know whose day you will brighten. If you are the one having a tough time there are always somebody out there that will help you and care. You might have to just find them whether it be a boyfriend/girlfriend, best friend, your mom/dad, or a teacher. No one is ever alone in this world!

The Eyes of The Invisible

 

“Give me your eyes for just one second; Give me your eyes so I can see everything that I keep missing; Give me your love for humanity; Give me your arms for the broken hearted, the ones that are far beyond my reach? Give me your heart for the one's forgotten; Give me your eyes so I can see.”

“Give Me Your Eyes” by Brandon Heath

Responsibility

Every day, no....every minute we are awake, every day, we are constantly being challenged to do what is right, to take responsibility for what we think, say and do.  To behave all of the time as if we are being watched by someone that we care what they think is a heavy responsibility.  To think if we say something cruel or careless, to stare or give a nasty look to anyone that just got on our last nerve.....maybe they deserved it you think....maybe it doesn't even matter to them....maybe they didn't see or hear what was done....they are all excuses to make ourselves feel better and not accept the accountability/responsibility for our actions.  Accountability is the shadow of responsibility.  One is like the other.  We are pros at excuses to make ourselves feel better....to give us time to shake off that little imp that sits on our shoulder and whispers in our sub-conscious that we shouldn't have done whatever it was.  There are people that really don't know right from wrong, but that is not the case for most of us.  If we make a mistake, say something or do something we know is wrong, we need to put our desire to have an instant out by saying it was their fault for making us feel like we had to do or say whatever.  We need to apologize, tell someone else even what we did and say it was wrong....take a minute to openly acknowledge our being human saying, "I'm sorry", or "I shouldn't have said or done that", find a way to make a wrong right. It isn't always easy or even possible.  Taking a five or ten second pause before we let our actions or words lash out or carelessly attack someone is the best defense to not repeatedly be that kind of person.  We all make mistakes, we don't all take responsibility for them and/or deliberately try to make whatever efforts we can to be a stand-up person.   


My Challenge this week is to try to not let any situation get the best of you and make you weak to say or act in that way.  Take the responsibility for what you say and do.


The Eyes of The Invisible

"In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility." Eleanor Roosevelt

Hating Someone Wont Get You Far In Life

Hate to many people is a strong word. It really should not be used at all because it could really hurt someone's feelings badly. Hate is an emotion as strong as love. If you hate someone you are giving them all your energy and emotion. Hate doesn't hurt other people, it hurts yourself. Hate is the author of war, prejudice, genocide, and many other evil things. If you hate enough it will become a cancer that will eat you alive.


This week I decided to take a poll on how people feel about hate. I asked the following questions:
1. How do you feel about the word "hate"?
2. If you were to hear someone or your friend say that they hate another person would you say that isnt nice or correct them and stick up for the other person?


Elizabeth Uustalu:
1. The word "hate" doesn't phase me anymore because people use it so much these days.
2. No, because it doesn't have anything to do with me, unless they are talking about my family, friends, or I.


Nicki Stoltz:
1. Hate. It's a strong, powerful yet hurtful word. People use the word hate all the time, without
seeing the power behind it.
2. As for my friends using it? I tell them, you can never hate someone or something.  No one ever
notices how much power is behind "hate" compare that to the racial slurs and homophobic
comments people make, and they respond. Then people would never use the word hate.

My challenge for you this week is to stop the hate that goes on in everyday life. If you have the courage like Rachel Scott did to stop others from saying bad things or "hating" others, do it. But if you just can stop people close to you that is always good too. Even the littlest things will make big effects.

The Eyes of The Indivisible

"I will not permit any man to narrow and degrade my soul by making me hate him."

Booker T. Washington

Respect: You Have To Give It First In Order To Recieve It

People think that they should always be treated with respect and never be treated poorly, but do those people treat others with respect is the question. It has been known that if you wanted to be treated with respect you must treat other with that same respect. Some still do not get that concept and it is sad. It is so very simple and easy to do. If you do treat people respectfully already cudos to you! You know how people should properly treated. But for those who have disrespected people now is the time to learn. You can always learn from your mistakes. From now on you should really watch what you say or do and make sure it is respectful.

If you are disrespectful to people you don't even know is not a good idea even if you don't know them. You don't want to give people the bad perspective of you definetly if you aren't like that. Being disrespectful to people you know is even worse! You know this person so why would you not respect them! It will make them not want to be around you and you might lose someone who might mean something to you.

Another thing that might happen is that when you are disrespectful to a person it could really hurt them hard unlike some others. You have to really be mindful what you say because it could really get to someone and make that person either not like you or they might take that disrespectful comment to heart. If they take that comment seriously it could turn bad real quick. So always remember think before you speak!

But overall, no matter who it is you need to be respectful to them whether it be a stranger on the street, your classmate, your best friend or your siblings. You never know how it can affect any one person.

My challenge this week is for you to be mindful of how you talk or act towards others. Are you being respectful? If you catch yourself being disrespectful that is good because you can fix it. Once you realize that you are doing wrong, you can learn from those mistakes and make things better.

The Eyes of The Invisible

"If you want to be respected by other, the great thing is to respect yourself."
            Fyodor Dostoevsky

Acts of Random Kindness

Imagine that every action that you do can be seen like a sign and it has your name on it. Would you always be comfortable and or proud of what you have said or done? Mindless actions have often been the cause of great pain to others simply because it was done without a through or a care of another person's feelings. So the smallest thing that you do could have an huge affect on someone else. When you think that giving someone a mean or rude look might not do anything or mean anything it could actually be big for them. Remember that every actions causes a reaction and if you want a good reaction from people you must first make your actions caring or compassionate.

My challenge for you this week is for you to perform multiple acts of random kindness. If you really want to be better person then make this a way of life not just something you do for a day, a week, a month or a even year.

"Too often we underestimate the power of a tough, smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." - Leo Buscaglia

The Eyes of The Invisible

What You Say Can Come Back To Get You

In schools and in society as a whole people don't always see it but there are people who are getting put down, ignored, called names, or just criticized for stupid reasons and that is not necessary at all. Those people who do this stuff sometimes don't even KNOW that they are doing this. Even after they get confronted about it they tend to ignore it or think "Oh I don't do that, I am a nice person." No, that is what I am trying to get across to people and get them to change because they need to watch what they say or how they say it because it can come out mean or rude even if they did not intend on it being that. So my challenge for people this week is to be nice and talk to  to AT LEAST ONE PERSON even if you and this person are not best of friends. Also, there is one more thing we should all do. If you see people talking bad about someone or you yourself are talking bad STOP and tell them or yourself that it is not right. Remember how it would feel as if you were the one getting talked about. 


The Eyes of The Invisible


P.S. ALWAYS do this! Don't just do it for one time and think you are good. This happens everyday and we all need to fix it. So be that one person to start a chain reaction as Rachel did.